Parents are usually excited about finding right school for
their kids because they wish for the new freedom. But, moms usually get
depressed about getting separated from their kids for the first time. Although
it’s temporary, the anxious feelings at that time can affect the kid’s
emotional state. Hence, the effects can be long lasting. Therefore, the moms
should learn about managing their anxiety for the sake of themselves and their
children.
There are a few things that mom (and dads too) can do to get
their separation anxiety reduced after leaving their kids to the school for
first time.
Positive goodbye
rituals
Think about the positive things that you can say and do to
make your kid more confident while heading to the school building. Implement
those practices from day one and continue to follow them until your child is
mature enough to protect himself. Express your love to your kid while leaving
him at school and tell him to have fun. Also mention the time when you would be
there to pick him.
Don’t hate your
feelings
The best way to gain emotional strength is to honor the
feelings which make you feel like a weaker person. If you get the tears while
leaving your kid at school, keep it in mind that it’s your love for the kid
that makes you like that. There should be the element of joy in it too. Also
remember that nature has made you this way.
Deal with your own
feelings privately
You surely are anxious while leaving your kid to school but
you have to keep it in mind that your kid would get even more anxious when he
would see you this much depressed. So, avoid expressing your sadness regarding
this separation in any way to your kid at any time. if you are find it hard to
cope with the emotional weakness inside you, you can work on these feelings
with the help of a counselor.
Help your kid to
adjust smoothly
Kids also get anxious about getting separated while leaving
for school for the first time. So, your anxiety or expression about being there
for them makes things difficult for them when it comes to smooth adjustment.
For instance, your child will not be able to adjust in his class when you give
him the back door by expressing your availability in case he needs help.
Instead, you can say that you would be there at a specific time to pick him up.
Have faith
It’s the nature of children to find escape by running
towards their parents. But they start to have fun when they get adjusted. This
same thing happens when they start going to school. You may get anxious for the
first time but if you are consistently having this anxiety, you are actually
questioning the very nature which is always there for the children and parents
to get over the anxiety. So, have faith.
